I think SS may have been having the same feelings. That could be the whole reason he would keep “moving next week.” I agree that you should sit down and tell him how much you will miss him. He’s packing and moving stuff right now. He’s leaving in a couple of hours, and realizing that maybe he should have started this packing thing a few days ago. I didn’t know if I would get a chance to talk to him, and he hasn’t been speaking to me, so I wrote him an e-mail and said what I wanted to say, that I would really miss him, there will be a hole in our family that will never be filled, that he’ll always have a place with us if he wants it, etc.
I got home last night and he was here and since then he’s been acting wonderfully, joking around and asking for help. I’m a little worried because I know he’s going into a situation where his mother wants him there but his SF definitely does not want him around. He’s already told him privately, that he may want to consider getting his own place place it’ll be too crowded with him there. They have one other child and a big new house. I think he’s really lost and confused and doesn’t know what he wants to do, but he’s gone to far with the moving plans to back out now, so I’ll guess we’ll see what happens.