What you said about me and my husband talking more, that’s one of the things I’m thinking about most, because even last night when I was getting more details about “the move”, I could tell that my husband was getting tense because he thought I was asking too many questions. I have felt lately like I’m not entitled to know what’s going on with SS, like husband doesn’t think I need to know or something. Maybe now we can have a conversation without SS coming up and both of us getting upset. Last night was the last one for him in our home. His BM’s brother lives 2 hours away and works for an airline, so he’s going to his house today and flying to her house tomorrow morning.
Yesterday, I took Melissa’s advice and sent him an email telling how I’m going to miss him, how there will always be a place for him here, how it’s been a joy watching him grow from 11 to 19,etc. . . even told him that Loved him, which I never had before. I rarely see him, so I didn’t really know if I’d see him to talk to him before he left. Well, when I got home last night, he was here and I could tell he’d gotten my message because he was acting wonderful, which was nice for his last evening home. Even thought this kid has been major pain, I’m feeling a little sorry for him on one account. It’s obvious to us that his SF doesn’t want him moving in with them, which is where he’s going.
Though “information” I have gotten that he doesn’t know that I know, SF keeps telling him how there’s few jobs there, they don’t pay well, they won’t be able to give him any help at all, he’ll have to share a room with someone (he had his own room here), he’ll have to pay all his own expenses, and yesterday actually told him that he may just want to find his own place to live rather than live with them. He tells SS to make sure he doesn’t mention these conversations to his BM, because she doesn’t know that SF is saying all these things to SS.
So I am worried that he’s going to break all his ties, pack all his stuff up, move down there, and not be happy because of the SF’s attitude. I guess there’s nothing I can do about that and he’ll just have to live with his decisions. It’s sad to see him walking into a situation where he’s not wanted, though. I really do think I care a lot more for him than his SF does, that’s obvious. Once again, thanks for all the insight. You’re wonderful. It really helps me see what it’s going to be like. I think I’ll frame a picture of SS with the little ones and put it in their room for them.